Dan Savage recently started an initiative called the It Gets Better Project, aimed at helping lesbian, gay, bi and transgender kids. Lots of research has shown that these kids are way more likely to get bullied than straight students, and they have suicide rates much higher than their straight counterparts. (One study found that 40% of LGBT high schoolers had attempted suicide, compared to 10% of non-LGBT high schoolers.) Savage wants to encourage these kids to hang in there. So the It Gets Better Project encourages LGBT grown-ups to post videos of themselves to YouTube, as proof to closeted or suffering LGBT kids that IT GETS BETTER. Their lives don’t have to suck. They just have to survive high school.

I emailed my brother and his husband encouraging them to make a video. They are adorable and happy — an arts administrator and a doctor — and they have a hilarious little firecracker princess of a daughter, and an active, fun life, and a fantabulous apartment. They don’t have a cat, but you can’t have everything. (And that would probably mean they were lesbians.)

I’ve had a love-hate relationship with Savage in the past (loved The Kid, his book about adopting his son; loved his doorknob-licking shenanigans; hate the fact that he is tiresomely vocal about how gross vaginas are, that he hates fat people and that he blamed Black people for Prop 8). But hey, my reaction to this initiative is all love.