Peggy Orenstein, on her blog yesterday. Amen, sister.
Pro-Sex, Anti-Sexualization, Thatâ€™s Me.
You learn more about a book youâ€™ve writtenâ€“and what you think about a subjectâ€“after it comes out. Once youâ€™re on the road and talking about it and seeing what resonates with people. It clarifies your ideas outside of your own head. One of the things I talk about a lot these days is being anti-sexualization of little girls, but pro-sex. That, in fact, being anti-sexualization IS being pro-sex because premature sexualization (which isÂ beautifully defined by the American Psychological Association) UNDERMINES healthy sexual development and is, Iâ€™m convinced, part of the reason we see girls making poor choices, acting against their own self-interest, defining their sexuality, femininity and worth as a woman based on how they appear to guys. Â The reason sexuality becomes a performance rather than felt experience. The reason they learn they are supposed to be desireable, but not understand their own desire.