Peggy Orenstein, on her blog yesterday. Amen, sister.
Pro-Sex, Anti-Sexualization, Thatâ€™s Me.
You learn more about a book youâ€™ve writtenâ€“and what you think about a subjectâ€“after it comes out. Once youâ€™re on the road and talking about it and seeing what resonates with people. It clarifies your ideas outside of your own head. One of the things I talk about a lot these days is being anti-sexualization of little girls, but pro-sex. That, in fact, being anti-sexualization IS being pro-sex because premature sexualization (which isÂ beautifully defined by the American Psychological Association) UNDERMINES healthy sexual development and is, Iâ€™m convinced, part of the reason we see girls making poor choices, acting against their own self-interest, defining their sexuality, femininity and worth as a woman based on how they appear to guys. Â The reason sexuality becomes a performance rather than felt experience. The reason they learn they are supposed to be desireable, but not understand their own desire.
“…femininity and worth as a woman based on how they appear to guys.” This so resonates with me. Young women figuratively joining in the Slut Walk and convincing themselves it’s their CHOICE to be sex objects and dress provocatively and revealingly, that it’s “empowering”. Blech. You’re invited to see my blog posts on “choice feminism”.